“Joe got a Man Cave,” said my husband, referring to a friend of ours who, apparently, had become a Neantherthal.

Poster_of_the_movie_The_Neanderthal_Man“Excuse me?” I responded.

“He got a Man Cave.  You know, a room in the basement that is just for him.”


“Sounds kind of like a cool idea,” he said wistfully.

I shook my head.  “You want a Man Cave?  There’s a spot between the tool bench and the washing machine,” I said to him.  “Knock yourself out.”

“Joe’s cave has a big screen TV, refrigerator, sound system and massage chair.”

“We have most of that already,” I said. “It’s called our house.”

He grunted and gave me a wave of dismissal as he stormed out of the room.  I thought it was fitting that someone who wanted a Man Cave would, at that moment, act like a caveman.

I was playing dumb, but I knew what he wanted.  He wanted his own space equipped with his own stuff where he could go to escape the teenagers and the dog and the wife.  The truth was, we already had a cave.  But there wasn’t much room down there for cavemen. It was the place where we stored all our out-of-season clothes, luggage and other infrequently used items, as well as the home of the laundry machines, tool bench, and old things I knew I was keeping for a reason but could not for the life of me remember what they were.

Our cave also had cave crickets… oversized prehistoric-looking versions of the kind you find outdoors. These gargantuan creatures lived in our basement and tended to jump out of the corners and scare the heck out of me when I would go down to do the laundry.   There was also stuff down there that hasn’t been seen since the Neolithic Era, as well as some old electronics my husband said are “dinosaurs.”  As far as I was concerned, we already had all the makings of a true caveman’s cave.  Just not the kind my husband had in mind.

Screen Shot 2014-01-15 at 3.07.48 PMNevertheless, I wanted to accommodate him. He worked hard and I knew when he got home from a day of din of the office and entered the din of the house, he would like someplace to go briefly for some quiet.

“Hey honey, we don’t really have the room to set up the basement as a Man Cave, but I know you could use a room of your own, so I created a space just for you,” I told him one day when he got home from work.

His face brightened.  “Really?”   Then a look of bewilderment crept across his brow.  He knew every room in our house was spoken for and couldn’t imagine how I had managed to squeeze a Man Cave into our crowded space.

Beaming, I took his hand and led him down the hall.

“Ta-da!” I announced, throwing open the bathroom door.

“This is the bathroom,” he said.

“I know. But I put an Ipod in there and some reading material and a couple of snacks so it can be your own private retreat!” I replied, gesturing around at all the new accessories.

“Thanks Honey, but it’s not quite what I had in mind.”

“I know, but it’s better!” I assured him.

“How do you figure?” He wondered.

“You never have to leave your cave to go to the bathroom.”

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  • Harvey Baron

    Hey, how come us guys get beat up about man caves? What about women caves, huh???? Geeez, give us a break!


    Sent from my iPad

  • amy sherman

    You’re creative, innovative and he should consider your effort a very loving gesture. He should use his time in there inventing a lounge chair that fits on top of the throne.

  • Sharon

    Tracy, good job, inventive and funny.
    Amy, the recliner/toilet was featured on an episode of Tool Time. Watch the reruns.

  • Astra

    Love it! Not sure why men need a “man cave”. They’re pretty much experts at tuning us out 😉
    And what would the female equivalent be called? All’s fair in love after all. The MareLair? The QueenScene?

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